The Reins of The Self.

To be in control, one has to experience lack of all control. By this is inferred to feel completely helpless, in the realm of the mind, in thought and emotion. There is a time in a human beings existence, when we revel in lack of control, for example, in the case of a child. Because the child accepts the state, so do others. When a child does not, nor do the others. The whole idea is to experience the state, without trying to avoid it. What is self control? Experiencing, without feeling helpless to the experience. When one does this, he is completely free from the experience, and revels in it. By 'revel', is inferred that he acts in spite, and despite, of the experience. I am sure, in such a situation, one has found Heaven on Earth. I have yet to experience the situation.